Read Colossians 3
Focus on verse 18-2
The family is often described as the fabric that holds a civilization together. When the family is strong, the civilization is strong – when the family begins to shred, the civilization will begin to come undone along with it. In today’s reading Paul gives instruction regarding family relationships and how healthy families function.
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.(v.18-21)
In our politically correct egalitarian culture, many people bristle at the suggestion that a wife should be submissive to her husband. To some extent this is understandable, since for many years women have been degraded and abused by men who use this passage in a twisted application to justify their sinful behavior. When this is applied as it was intended in the context, husbands recognize that this is not a mandate for them to dominate the family, but to serve their families in selfless sacrifice of their own desires. When husbands love their wives as Christ loved the church, they are willing to lay their lives down for their family, giving up their own pursuits for the sake of those they love. When men choose to do this, it is much more likely that the wife will choose to submit and the children will choose to obey.
No family is perfect, we all continue to be affected by brokenness of sin. It is exactly this brokenness that these instructions seek to repair. God is in the business of redeeming us from the effects of our sin. When we choose to obey Him – He is able to begin restoring our lives to what which He created us to be. When we choose to rebel, and go our own way, He allows us to make that choice, but also allows us to bear the consequences of our sin, which, if we pursue it to its end, ultimately leads to death.